Community Guidelines

Last updated 2026-07-23

Pairr exists so people can meet properly. That only works if it feels safe to be honest here. These are the rules, and how we enforce them.

Be who you actually are

Your Reality Photo is taken in the app, right now, unfiltered. That's the whole point — the person across the table on a first date should look like the person you were talking to.

Not allowed: photographs of someone else, of a screen, or of a printed photo. Heavy filters that materially change your appearance. Lying about your age. Claiming to be someone you're not.

What happens: photos are rejected before they go live. Deliberate impersonation is a permanent ban.

Say something real

Interest costs a sentence here because that's what makes it mean something. Write to people as though they're going to read it, because they are.

Not allowed: copy-pasting the same message to everyone. Sexual content in an opening message. Anything you'd be embarrassed to have read aloud.

When someone isn't interested

Not everyone will write back. That's not rejection, it's arithmetic.

Not allowed: messaging repeatedly after being ignored. Making a new account to reach someone who unmatched or blocked you. Guilt, pressure, or persistence dressed up as romance.

What happens: continuing after someone has disengaged is harassment, and we treat it that way.

Never allowed

These result in an immediate permanent ban, and where appropriate a report to police.

• Anyone under 18, or seeking anyone under 18
• Threats of violence, or violence itself
• Sexual coercion, blackmail, or threatening to share intimate images
• Non-consensual intimate images of anyone
• Stalking — turning up at a home or workplace, or tracking someone
• Trafficking, or any exploitation

Not allowed

• Unsolicited sexual images or messages
• Abuse based on race, religion, disability, sexuality or gender identity
• Requests for money, investment offers, or crypto pitches
• Advertising or promotion of any kind
• Sharing someone's private information, including screenshots of conversations
• Nudity or sexual content in photographs

Rude isn't the same as dangerous

Not every unpleasant experience needs us. Someone being blunt, dull, or a bad match is not a safety issue — that's what blocking is for, and blocking is instant and silent.

Report when someone makes you feel unsafe, when they're not who they claim to be, or when they're doing something on the list above. Keeping those reports meaningful is what lets us respond to them in hours rather than days.

What happens when you report

1. You stay anonymous. They are never told who reported them.
2. It's triaged within seconds. Reports involving threats, minors or coercion go to the top of the queue with a two-hour response target.
3. A person reviews it. Every decision is made by a human, and every action is logged.
4. If it's serious, evidence is preserved — even if they delete their account.
5. We may act with a warning, suspension, or a permanent ban.

You won't usually hear the outcome. That protects the privacy of everyone involved, including you.

If you're in danger

If you feel unsafe right now, contact your local emergency services. In Australia, that's 000.

Pairr is not an emergency service and we cannot intervene in real time.

Meeting someone

• Meet somewhere public the first time
• Tell a friend where you're going and who with — the app has a share button on confirmed dates
• Arrange your own transport
• Don't feel obliged to stay. Leaving early is always allowed, and you owe nobody an explanation

Read the full Safety page before your first date.